Looking for the best ways to connect with your spouse? One of the characteristics of happy, healthy couples is that most days, they find ways to spend about 20 minutes with each other just talking. It is the classic “How was your day, dear?” conversation and it turns out that this is pretty important. I work with lots of couples who lose this routine, especially when they have children and busy lives. So, if you don't have twenty minutes to spend, here are best ways to connect after work or any time. These conversations and habits tend to give you the high doses of intimacy and connection.
One Change the question, “So, how was your day?” to more specific questions like:
Two Always find time to touch in some way. Here are simple ways to incorporate touch in your routines:
Three Make sure you ask and share with each other many of the following about the week/day:
Four Take the time to call, text, IM, email at least once during the day. It can be as simple as “I love you”; “I'm thinking of you” or “I can't wait to see you when you get home.”
Five Even if you're totally consumed with other activities (e.g. the kids, family members, work), tell your partner that you miss him or her and want to plan a time soon to spend quality time together. Then take time to put it on the calendar.